The worst thing that can happen to someone in love is being more than friend but less than a lover.
~ Alvin Kwardi
These advancing times have made me realize a new trend. The trend of, showing a total resentment towards recognizing a relation as it actually is. The term ‘friend’ has become so generic that when someone introduces you as a friend; it’s not as easy to interpret, as it used to be earlier. Those who feel tags and labels are best suited for products at a super market and should be kept out of relationships, are missing a point. I too do not advocate the practice of putting a tag or label on relationships as we are humans and not products sold at a super market. Having said that I find it a little hypocritical when people fail to call a spade, a spade.
In such a case, what is the possible point am I trying to make? From the past couple of months, I have had enough time to have discussions on various topics with people, I think, whose frequency matches to that of mine. One such discussion made it easy for me to make my point. The second most essential factor after trust, in a strong relation is clear communication. By keeping off from being clear, we would only give a chance for assumptions and doubts to crop up. Make no mistake; the person on the other side can never understand what is going on in your mind on all instances. This is the thumb rule for every relation, and this covers your blood relations too. The point is, don’t put a tag for other’s sake, do it for your own benefit. Recognizing things the way they are is better than subtle hints, which never work, especially in the matters of heart, at least in reality.
Take this for example. If a guy and a girl were, let us say, more than friends and these are the possibilities. 1) The guy is serious and the girl isn’t 2) The girl is serious and the guy isn’t 3) Both the guy and girl are serious 4) Both the guy and the girl are casual about it
In each of these four cases, imagine the down side, if silence did the talking. In the first and the second case, the guy and girl will end up with a broken heart respectively. In the third case, things may work out after a delay. Imagine how much fun the two would have to miss in the fourth case, if you know what I mean. Do you see an upside, without recognizing the relations, the way they are?
6 comments:
successful mantra to escape relationship is saying .. more than friends but less than a lover... somehow has become more like a fashion statement..and i have seen/heard 90 % of girls saying this ;D
Mansee, thx for reading & commenting. You exactly got the point which I tried to put across. I mean, this fake reason of NOT PUTTING TAG (I call it is pseudo modern trend) is just a gateway to escape.
" The more than friends less than a lover" is very true.But sometimes I do feel that a friendship between a girl and a boy is a very over-rated thing. Boys and girls as true friends has a very minimal chance . Well, thats my point of view. U know what I mean.
Highly... I totally agree with you! True friendship between a guy & a girl cannot exist, unless the guy is a gay. But the reason why people are reluctant to put a 'real tag' is ... an easy escape. Haven't you seen stories like, in college someone, later at work someone else... finally get married to a joker in the US :) I know I have been outrageous, but bitter truth of life!
But sometimes relations can be platonic and yet be beautiful , if we as individuals do not try to read too much about it & let it be the way it is :)
Platonic relations do exist and I've had a few of those. But make no mistake, for a platonic relation to exist, there should be right situations. Else, more often than not there are heart breaks in the end... though this is my guess.
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