Unlike my last few posts, this one is not based on current affairs or an article. The inspiration behind this post is a friend of mine, whose two experiences helped me understand a beautiful concept in life. Before you start reading this one, here is a quick background. This friend is in his mid-twenties, yet doesn’t have (never had) a girlfriend.
During his college days, he liked a girl. One day he decided to express it to her. He gave her a call and expressed his feelings. The girl denied it, as she already was in a relation with someone else. As a result of this, he was heart-broken for couple of weeks. Enough time passed and he was doing fine.
Life at times tests you beyond imaginations and throws again those tricky situations at you. It turned out that, he again liked a girl, a co-worker, years later. But this time, he played it safe. He never told her about his feelings. The girl whom he liked, eventually became his best friend at office. Again, enough time passed and one day this girl handed him her wedding invitation. This time too my friend was devastated. Now rose the doubt in his mind that had he expressed his feelings to this girl, things would have probably worked out. This doubt had no (will never have a fruitful) resolution.
When I last spoke to him, he confessed that earlier rejection was way better than suppressing the feelings. He is sure that his doubt will never allow him to be at peace. Just to avoid some embarrassment, he opted for a bigger punishment. Maybe it is okay to have the attitude “better safe than sorry” in most instances of life. But when it comes to the matters of heart, along with playing it safe, it is always better to express your feelings and lighten up than repent for not expressing.
I am signing off this post with a quote which I recently read, goes something like this, “Often you will repent more for those things that you didn’t do than those which you did”
PS: This post is dedicated to whomsoever it may concern.
2 comments:
Hmmmmmmm this stuff sounds more like one of trademark vj stories. But one point I disagree and that is many times we also consciously repent for what we did.
I would say, once a person acquires enough maturity, he/she should not repent for what he/she consciouly chooses to do! At such stages, the only point on which you repent the ones which are supressed.
Yes, it was more or less my trademark stories, but too short! Right?
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